If you can’t fly, then run.
If you can’t run, then walk.
If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.
-Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
I’d like to talk about personal goals. I never used to be much for writing down things I wanted to accomplish. However recently I was put into quite the situation, where I felt as though I was at a low point in my life and something needed to change in order for me to get out of the funk id been in and into the new phase of my life. Only being 24, and a single mom was hard in itself. I’d just went through a really bad breakup. We were engaged to be married living together for just about four years. He was everything to me, sadly I was a bit to involved into the relationship I think. My whole world revolved around the life we had together. We shared everything from the normal relationship stuff to, money, and responsibility over my son. We were partners. He was like a father to my son since he was born. So I not only allowed him into my life but my sons. I gave him far to much of myself so when he decided to just up and leave(for another girl) my entire world as I knew it fell apart. I fell apart. I was depressed, alone, unmotivated, broken and feeling like I was nothing. I felt like I was not worthy of love so why love myself. With all of that I lost my family, my home and my sanity. I was forced out of my comfort zone, which was horrifying. Curling up in a ball somewhere in a corner seemed far more pleasant. But in order to move forward I had to make a choice. So I did.
Now although this type of thing has never been to unfamiliar to me it was actually just what I really needed to get to the next phase of my life. I was staying with my mom in her one bedroom studio. So with nowhere to call home, no money, I finally decided two weeks after the breakup to get myself together and move on. I was sitting and thinking and came up with a list of things I really needed to do to better not only my situation but my life. And the life I wanted to give my son. I came up with a list that included finding a place, paying the bills I was swamped in and general stuff like that. Honestly it’s not so much about what was on the list but the purpose of the list. What that list represented. When I accomplished 90% of the things on that list, which at the time seemed to far from my grasp and absolutely unattainable. I did not care. That paper was my new start. My shot at getting back everything I had lost and more. It was independence, and hope for my future. You see it helped me realize that nothing is impossible. That all it takes, yes all it takes is the will and want to be and do better. I vowed that I would be a better person after all of this. Especially with god now being a huge part of my life. Four weeks later heading in the right direction. Got my own place, a better job, and a bran new outlook on life. So, today my blogger friends I just want to encourage you to set goals for yourself. Even if that seem impossible, have courage and faith. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and make a change. Change is inevitable, so you may as well embrace and be happy. Also keep a positive mindset. Fill your mind with(I know cliché but) motivational quotes, scriptures whatever it may be that will help keep you motivated and staying positive. Giving up is easy, but fighting and succeeding is hard, yet far more rewarding.
Be blessed friends!